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Re: Living with a Psycho Xiaojie

Postby finley » 29 Mar 2011, 03:04

AmyLord wrote:People do not become physcho xiaojie with no reason.
As far as I know lots of girls in Taiwan turn into physcho xiaojie because they watched and learned from how their parents interact.
Psycho mummy, psycho xiaojie.
So my advice is check the mother ASAP if you're considering spending the rest of your life with a Taiwanese girl.

Yeah ... that's pretty much a human universal. It's just rather sad that it seems to be so common. I'm not suggesting "western" culture is much better - we screw up our kids in different ways :)

AmyLord wrote:btw emotional stability is not always a good thing...at least not for me.
I was dumped by an ex-bf because he thought I was too emotionally stable.
"It's like you could virtually live without me. It's like you don't care."
Maybe he's a psycho shiansheng...but when that happened more than once I couldn't help questioning myself.

I think that proves Divea's point from way way back ... some men want to be the "knight in shining armour". I prefer women who have their own lives and don't feel the need to phone me every 20 mins asking "how are you? did you eat? etc", or who will throw a wobbly if I fail to do the same.

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Re: Living with a Psycho Xiaojie

Postby the chief » 29 Mar 2011, 08:44

tsukinodeynatsu wrote:...but an intelligent person has a higher chance of being reasonable. If you're reasonable, you can be calmed down, and you're less likely to give in to the depression/mood swings/hormones/self-doubt/whatever's nagging at you in the first place, too.


Uh, miss?
You know I'm a fan, and I do love your UN, but, erm, how can I say this...your point appears to be contested by, well...

EVERY FREAKING WOMAN I've EVER KNOWN!!!

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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby Mr He » 29 Mar 2011, 09:20

I have known a couple - in general they would blame it on me, however I think they enjoyed it themselves.

Short shrift - kick them out, that's my cure.
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Re: Living with a Psycho Xiaojie

Postby Got To Be Kidding » 30 Mar 2011, 12:13

djstout wrote:
Got To Be Kidding wrote:
For me, it's the other way around. My wife's mother-in-law is the one who is psycho.

The poor woman married into a family that's completely nuts.

What was she thinking?


Sorry I had to edit my comment, what I wrote down was deleted...
Anyway, does it affect your relationship? In my case, it affect my couple as her mother hates me so much that she goes as far as saying that she is getting sick because of me.... I hope it will be better after marrying her.


Put a planet between yourself and the mother-in law. (It's what my wife did!)

It really comes down to how attached your girlfriend is to her mother, and if your gf can switch her attachment FROM her mom TO you.

If you fiance is a devoted daughter, RUN.
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby djstout » 30 Mar 2011, 12:30

She is not devote for sure, she likes her parents as they paid her everything till now, but she knows that they are a way too strict, and she doesn't mind living her parents, just she doesnt want to hurt them too much, so she will get marry as soon as they accept... which just won't happen... but she is stubborn and told me that she was not gonna give up. Anyway, her mother is a psycho and I am happy far from her
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby Mr He » 30 Mar 2011, 16:32

Perhaps knocking her up would help?
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby Chris » 30 Mar 2011, 19:59

I did have a psycho xiaojie Japanese roommate once.

Every room had its own pair of slippers, and there was an imaginary line in middle of the living room which, once you crossed it, required a change of slippers.

I didn't feel like I could come and go as I pleased: even though we were sharing the apartment, it felt more like I was renting a room from her. She would expect me to be in at a certain time, and would question me if I was late. (Even though we weren't in a bf/gf relationship... thankfully.) The rules were hers, and she had many rules, most of them nonsensical. It was kind of like living with a female version of Sheldon (from the TV comedy The Big Bang Theory).
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby riceworm » 31 Mar 2011, 15:20

djstout wrote:Psycho mommy :roflmao: shit I love those words together! How would you say that in Chinese?


Psycho mom = 瘋媽媽 (feng1 ma1 ma1) or 瘋老媽 (feng1 lao3 ma1)
Psycho old hag = 瘋老太婆 (feng1 lao3 tai4 po2)

So as one might guess, 老 (lao3) = old.
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby TheAmericanNomad » 09 Apr 2011, 10:28

Chris wrote:I did have a psycho xiaojie Japanese roommate once.

Every room had its own pair of slippers, and there was an imaginary line in middle of the living room which, once you crossed it, required a change of slippers.



That sounds like it might be related to OCD in some way, they have strange habits.

Did she make you use the slippers? If so, why did you accept that?
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Re: Psycho Xiaojies

Postby citizen k » 09 Apr 2011, 14:38

This vid popped up on fb recently. Think it's appropriate to this thread:


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