Ryan the third wrote:Why would you think that your marriage is the norm? I am not saying that women are better or worse than men and I am not saying there are no psycho men in Taiwan (that would be a ridiculous claim), but this is a thread about Psycho Xiaojies. Why should there be anything else in this thread. You can't pick a book about serial killers to read and then complain about it displaying men as mass murderers. Walk around the library and see that there are other books (and threads). Btw. from all the women and girls I met in my years in Taiwan there is only ONE that meets your desciption, which sadly puts the odds well against you.
Hey Ryan, I'm not really making a specific statement about you. No disrespect intended to any person, I just find the very existence of this thread annoying, but yea sure it's entitled to be here and so is my comment. I never said my relationship was normal, it's unique. The point is, or rather the point I was making, is that Taiwan has nothing to do with it. I can go to any country and either have a positive relationship or not. And that these ladies (or the one in the video) are not psycho, at worse suffering mental illness (ok psychopaths are suffering from mental illness too), mostly they're just insecure people. You can choose to have a relationship with someone who is insecure, if you have the ability to deal with it. Is it their fault that you can't? That is another way of looking at it. I've tried in the past and had varying success in those relationships, but I never walked away from any of them thinking they were psycho, just that we couldn't find the right way to communicate together (and remorse I couldn't do better). We all know that blokes think with their dicks and then find it a surprise (when the dick is asleep) that the lady, who you wanted to dick actually has an opinion and it's different to yours! She actually doesn't want to play xbox and drink with your buddies! But wants you to go shopping, lo and behold you say no, and all hell breaks loose. One scenario in 1000's I can paint for you - where the communication is weak or strained and the emotional needs are not met by either party. Most actions I see are selfish ones that are led by ego. Again I'm not referring to a specific event or person here. The male ego is more often the bigger, because of the way sexes are raised, and is not going shopping. So what can you expect in return for such behaviour? Where the smart thing to do is go bloody shopping, then talk about your needs. If you take the piss, why won't she take the piss? But, too often this is just too gay for a bloke. Again is that a ladies fault? No! So we end up with the behaviour that suits the male ego. She acts irrationally, so must be something wrong with her. But most likely it's just the attitude actions of the male that have led to the behaviour in the first place.
So what I'm saying is treat people with respect. Sure women want to do different things to you and they want to be listened to but the reverse is true also. So were not different, we have the same needs - the ultimate need is happiness.