Psycho Xiaojies

[Ryan the third]

I didn't take it personally. For me this thread is not about them being a clinical psychopath. Its more like the behaviour of some Taiwanese girls and women can be/seem damn strange. So strange that one could call them psycho from a western perspective. At least for the purpose of this thread.
Of course you can meet the exact same kind of woman anywhere else. But still there seems to be a high likelyhood of all the stuff described in the thread happening in Taiwan which has probably to do with the way the girls are expected to be childish and insecure to fit the society they live in. Which in turn can lead to all kinds of crazy in combination with a western guy who does not know how to deal with that, and then the situation escalates.

[bismarck]

I think Sandy, Ryan and Stevie all make good points. The truth of it all is somewhere in the middle of that all.

[antarcticbeech]

I suspect there is a highly profitable niche market for psycho xiaojie porn.

Just sayin.

[bismarck]

I suspect there is a highly profitable niche market for psycho xiaojie porn.

Just sayin.

Man, that means nothin' without links!!

Just sayin'.

[914]

In your opinions, do psycho xiaojies only behave this way on their home turf? Do they turn it off when they're outside taiwan, of course im referring to taiwanese psycho xiaojies for the sake of clarity, and by outside of Taiwan I don't mean on a short vacay, but living or studying abroad for a limited period (not those born and/or raised outside of tw).

[sandman]

In your opinions, do psycho xiaojies only behave this way on their home turf? Do they turn it off when they're outside taiwan, of course im referring to taiwanese psycho xiaojies for the sake of clarity, and by outside of Taiwan I don't mean on a short vacay, but living or studying abroad for a limited period (not those born and/or raised outside of tw).

Can't answer, as I never met none outside of Taiwan. There's a bunch of 'em in my office now, though, all around 28 years old, going on 13, who were educated overseas. Nice kids every one, but even from the work environment I can tell that there's NO WAY I'd be getting jiggy with any of 'em, fetching fillies though they undoubtedly are. I guess if you're a dick-thinking person you could find yourself in a good deal of trouble with them, though. That's the key, young 'uns. Think with the big head, not the little one.

[Indiana]

In your opinions, do psycho xiaojies only behave this way on their home turf? Do they turn it off when they're outside taiwan, of course im referring to taiwanese psycho xiaojies for the sake of clarity, and by outside of Taiwan I don't mean on a short vacay, but living or studying abroad for a limited period (not those born and/or raised outside of tw).

That DOES seem to happen sometimes...at least to two friends in particular I can think of who met their Taiwanese SO's on their home turf and then moved to Taiwan when said woman moved back to be with her.

In these instances, they insist that she was completely cool, normal, etc. when living abroad, but turned loopy almost immediately upon returning to Taiwan. As in psycho loopy.

As for a couple of other friends who met their wives in their home countries, their wives are DEFINITELY psycho but they didn't seem to think so...brainwashed? Blind love? It's a mystery! One finally just divorced after 15 years of marriage but the other is still married. I have no idea if their wives were always that way or magically turned psycho after hitting Taiwanese soil.

[GC Rider]

Which in turn can lead to all kinds of crazy in combination with a western guy who does not know how to deal with that, and then the situation escalates.

I think that's the key sentence. I've always thought that part of the problem must lie with the western male part of the couple, not just with the so-called PXJ. Without wanting to sound disrespectful to those guys, I think a lot of times it's a matter of attracting these PXJ in the first place. Although I can't base this on any empirical study, it seems to me that western guys somehow attract these insecure women like magnets. And apparently it's a mutual attraction. It's just that I never hear these kinds of stories from my Taiwanese friends and I don't get the impression that it's a widespread phenomenon in Taiwanese couples (of course there are many exceptions). Or maybe Taiwanese guys instinctively (or due to cultural conditioning) know better how to avoid or appease potential PXJ behavior.

It sounds like bad news for western guys, but my conclusion would be that a certain type of woman in Taiwan, probably one with low self esteem (maybe due to overly protective or strict parents), is more inclined to date westerners. And western guys, thinking and acting in typical western ways, are naturally less able to deal with PXJ and thus the situation easily escalates.

Also, I believe one reason for PXJ behavior, apart from insecurity on the part of the PXJ, is that certain expectations that the PXJ had (whether realistic or not, and I'm not talking about dick size, lol) are not met by the western guy, resulting in disillusionment and perhaps a loss of respect.

[finley]

I agree. But I don't think Taiwanese guys know how to deal with it any better. I was coming out of an MRT station a few weeks ago and some Taiwanese guy was waiting outside to pick up his gf/wife on his scooter. They barely had time to have a conversation longer than "hello", and gf freaks. She's ranting, stomping her feet like a two-year-old, rips his phone out of his hand, jumps up and down on it, tries to kick it down the nearest drain. All this time he's trying to calm her down in an ineffectual "there, there" kind of way. Now, if he'd just confessed to a threesome with his boss and her 17-year-old daughter and gambling away this month's salary on Ma Jiang, fair enough. But I'm pretty certain he'd just suggested having 火鍋 for dinner instead of 牛肉麵.

I've seen less extreme examples where the bf/husband (friends/acquaintances, not random people in the street) just tries to soothe the nutter in question as if she's a toddler. Which she is. Yes, you could say it's the guy's fault for getting involved, but even sandman admits his office is full of 'em. They're a bit hard to avoid, and sometimes you end up shagging one by accident, as it were. PXJ behaviour isn't always obvious at the beginning, especially when you're wearing porn-coloured spectacles.

[Ryan the third]

I agree. But I don't think Taiwanese guys know how to deal with it any better. I was coming out of an MRT station a few weeks ago and some Taiwanese guy was waiting outside to pick up his gf/wife on his scooter. They barely had time to have a conversation longer than "hello", and gf freaks. She's ranting, stomping her feet like a two-year-old, rips his phone out of his hand, jumps up and down on it, tries to kick it down the nearest drain. All this time he's trying to calm her down in an ineffectual "there, there" kind of way. Now, if he'd just confessed to a threesome with his boss and her 17-year-old daughter and gambling away this month's salary on Ma Jiang, fair enough. But I'm pretty certain he'd just suggested having 火鍋 for dinner instead of 牛肉麵.

I've seen less extreme examples where the bf/husband (friends/acquaintances, not random people in the street) just tries to soothe the nutter in question as if she's a toddler. Which she is. Yes, you could say it's the guy's fault for getting involved, but even sandman admits his office is full of 'em. They're a bit hard to avoid, and sometimes you end up shagging one by accident, as it were. PXJ behaviour isn't always obvious at the beginning, especially when you're wearing porn-coloured spectacles.

Ok. Maybe Taiwanese guys cannot deal with it better, but at least for them I am pretty sure this stuff does not come as a surprise. They would probably say this is normal behaviour for a girl.