Should I coddle and comfort her, or stay out of her way during that month?
Lili wrote:sandman wrote:This is experience talking -- me, for instance, spent far too long describing how Bantu women simply bugger off into the bush for an afternoon, drop the sprog, clean up a little bit, gather water and firewood and head back to the village, while hubby chews kola nuts and tells his mates what a great father he is.
With hindsight, I wouldn't have done that.
While I've never heard of this, it seems if you consider the practice from a different perspective, Westerners do basically the same thing.
I'm sure you can think of at least a few families where the wife's mother came to take care of shop, or they had a wet nurse for the first month or so, or maybe just have the nanny stay a few extra hours every week.
I guess since it seems to be more a structured system, you might feel like "What am I supposed to do!?" but just think of how it would be in your home country. I honestly doubt a new family would be left to their lonesome to take care of a new baby without family or friends stopping by with food, gifts, offers to run errand, etc.
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